10 days is a long time for the wife of a convict

10 days since my last post….. 10 long tedious days….. and what has caused me to break my silence?  Well, where exactly shall we start.

Am I right to blog?  Why do people blog?  Is this just a strangulated cry for help? Is it legal to name and shame on a blog?  Surely if I am just writing what has happened to me and carefully put both sides of an argument I cannot be accused of anything.  I just get so tired of having to deal with what I can only describe as “crap” in my husband’s absence.  Actually, it’s “crap” of his making, not mine.  The fact that it affects me is grossly unfair.  I know I married my husband, for better or worse, but really, how much worse does matters have to get before you say “hang on a minute”…….

Ok, I’ll not hold you in suspense any more.  Before my husband went away for a brief sojourn at Her Majesty’s Pleasure, he put in his final invoices to the companies he was working for.  Two of those companies paid without question money that was owing to husband.  The third of those companies, actually the one I had worked for previously, has decided that she needs to take advice in view of what my husband has “done”.   Apparently rather than pay the invoices due to my husband, she is “assessing the cost” to her company because of the “fall out”.  Apparently she has spent “hours” and even “weekends” on this and has also been advised (no doubt by a very expensive accountant) to conduct a full audit on her company.

To say I am spitting teeth is an understatement.  My husband, after being suspended from the company he confessed to stealing from, whilst awaiting trial, worked for her.  Worked weekends for her.  Worked evenings whilst we lived in a bloody caravan for her.  I worked for her, not charging her if I worked overtime.  When I left her company (because she could not afford to pay me the going rate for my services) she asked me to return to work for her.  I did so, in my free evenings after I finished my day job.  She told me she would pay me for this work – did she?  No, she did not, but she was happy for me to continue to work for nothing.

And now, for reasons that only she knows, she has been “advised” to withhold payment.  What a disgraceful act.  I only hope the auditor that conducts her audit charges the same pitiful amount of hourly rate that my husband charged her.  To think she had the audacity to call both myself and my husband her friend.  She is yet another one of these false friends.  Once who was pleased to take but now hides when my husband is away and cannot defend himself.  What a coward.

So, since hubby has been locked up, I have lost my job because I told my company what he did, I cannot take them to a tribunal because I was not employed for long enough.  I am running out of money because I am no longer working and now, when I think that money that is due to me, it is being withheld by someone so whiter than white ……. I’m sorry, I am so, so, so cross, I had better not continue.

I’m still job seeking though, still smiling!  I will get work, I have done nothing NOTHING wrong.  I am being punished for standing by my husband – and he did what he did because the people he worked for were themselves disreputable.  I know in my heart that one day, one day there will be a comeuppance for these types of people.  I also know that not only will I trust no-one, but that if I do trust them and that trust is broken, then surely I am free to tell the world how hard done by I am.

Thank you, and goodnight.

Facts and figures omitted, feelings not.

I feel shitty.  I spent 10mins this morning sitting on the stairs sobbing my heart out.  Not only do I have a husband in prison, but now I’ve been sacked.  I’ll not go into the sacking in any detail because I wish to appeal what I feel is a grossly unfair decision.

What else is making me tear my hair out – Legal Aid.  Good old Legal Aid.  I have been advised, by Legal Services Commission that now that my husband has been sentenced, they will no longer consider appealing any decision about the amount he has to contribute.  They seem to be sticking to the £8,000.00 figure and I have nothing to tell me how they have come to this amount.  Would you pay £8,000.00 without any details on how this figure originated?  Take you car to the garage, and they say, through clenched teeth “that’ll be £1,980.00”.  What would you do – write out a cheque there and then saying “thank you my good man, I’m sure you’ll do an excellent and worthwhile job.”  Like billy bonkers you would, you’d say “How much!!!!  What are you going to do for that amount”.  Ah ha, a breakdown of costs is it that you are requiring.

Well, not with legal aid.  What happens is that you tell them all you details, how much money you (don’t) have and your bills you have to pay, then they stick their finger in the air and arrive at an arbitrary figure.  Or so it seems.

And another thing.  What about the fact that I’m supposed to be paying this seeing as THE FREEZING ORDER IS STILL IN PLACE.  Yep, maybe this is just what I needed, a bit of vitriol.  Still don’t have access to the now negative balanced bank account, Barclays still have not sorted out with “other side’s” lawyers on the sum of £2,500 owing.  And I’ve just received notification of the bill racking up with husband’s ex-Institute……..

For the record, I am as depressed as I was this time last year.  Not as depressed as I was in October 2010 when I did want to end my life, but well back on the way.  I just hope that there is a light, just a little flicker, at the end of this incredibly long, black, dark, stinking tunnel.