I’ve taken a bit of a risk, but under my new banner of “live for today” I felt the risk was a necessary one. I have linked this blog to every other form of social media I contribute to. That in itself is not desperately dangerous, but I decided to also publish the link to my blog on my “LinkedIn” site. LinkedIn, for those who don’t know, is a Business social networking site.
I have been worrying for a while now, about the answer I would give during a job interview, to the question “what does your husband do for a living”? This puts me in a bit of a predicament. Most importantly, it is a question that is not allowed at interview, however, if I did choose to answer, and it would be strange and suspicious if I did not, and I fudged my response, I could be accused, at a later stage, of lying at interview – and perhaps again lose my job. If I choose to tell the truth, I could well not be employed on the basis of my husband’s past actions.
Honesty is still, for me, the best policy. Although I do not want to go around saying “Hi I’m Carol, my husband’s currently serving three years for theft”, my whole life has changed. My attitudes, sympathies and the reasons why I do what I do on a daily basis has changed. The aspirations I had for the future, how I lived daily life, everything. Remember, I had given up work to be a “housewife” before all this kicked off, I had to re-start my career. Previously I worried not at all about money, it was there, we had a pension, life cover, sickness cover, we were insured to the back teeth. If something broke down, we replaced it. To not talk about this to others is extremely difficult – just the question “did you do anything nice at the weekend” puts me on my guard. My weekend comprises of visiting my husband for one and a half hours every Saturday, so really I only spend Sunday doing “nothing”.
At my current position I have evaded any questions, I speak about the past, but not the future. If I was to be asked a direct question “so what does your husband do?” I don’t know how I’d answer. I am only a temporary secretary here so do not feel obliged to tell the full, unexpurgated truth. But when I go for an interview, I think this will be different. My last job I lost – on their part because I committed a gross misconduct in printing off, discussing and taking home an email (which was about me and what my husband had done). I asked if I could resign rather than be sacked, for what I considered was not a gross misconduct, and eventually this was agreed. The company felt there had been a breakdown of trust. Do I want this to occur again – no way – I’d rather the truth was known before I started working or never revealed at all. Given that I am applying for PA (Personal Assistant) positions, the chances are I will work closely with my employer and there will be a higher likelihood that the truth will be revealed.
So in a way, I am hoping that any links will be followed to this place and that if what my husband did is considered “a problem” to a future employer, I hope I will not be interviewed. Maybe if asked the question I could just refer a potential employer here…..